What I Wish I Had Known

Nov 13, 20212 min read

What I Wish I Had Known: Is 'do unto others' bad advice?

I have always subscribed to the notion of “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you", also known as the Golden Rule. It seems...

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What I Wish I Had Known: Everybody has their reasons (and most likely the reason isn't you)

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Oct 2, 20211 min read

What I Wish I Had Known: Everybody has their reasons (and most likely the reason isn't you)

I have always tended to take things very personally. When people don’t reply to me on chats, block me on social media, stop hanging out...

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What I Wish I had Known: Coping with Uncomfortable thoughts

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Sep 22, 20212 min read

What I Wish I had Known: Coping with Uncomfortable thoughts

I have always blindly accepted every thought I have as fact. If I am thinking it it must be true, I would reason. If, for example, my...

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What I Wish I had Known: On the tendency to draw conclusions

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Aug 21, 20211 min read

What I Wish I had Known: On the tendency to draw conclusions

I was always guilty of giving into the temptation to look at a situation and draw some conclusions based on that about either what it...

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What I Wish I had Known: Mutually exclusive values

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Aug 11, 20212 min read

What I Wish I had Known: Mutually exclusive values

I always hated fighting in a relationship. It upset me when we fought but it also upset me when my partner would do things without taking...

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What I Wish I Had Known: Nobody really cares

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Jun 11, 20211 min read

What I Wish I Had Known: Nobody really cares

I can't even begin to describe how many years I tried to get other people to approve of me, to be pleased with me or to not screw up or...

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What I Wish I Had Known: There is an expiration date for blaming your parents

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May 31, 20211 min read

What I Wish I Had Known: There is an expiration date for blaming your parents

This is one of the hard truths I have recently been forced to come to terms with. When you grow up your decisions are your own and you...

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What I Wish I Had Known: The Tyranny of Ambition?

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May 14, 20211 min read

What I Wish I Had Known: The Tyranny of Ambition?

I recently watched a documentary describing why Swedish people were among the happiest in the world. And one reason really struck with...

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What I wish I Had Known: Don’t follow your passion?

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Apr 30, 20212 min read

What I wish I Had Known: Don’t follow your passion?

How many times have you heard ‘do what you love and you’ll never have to work another day in your life?’ or ‘Just follow your passion’ as...

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What I Wish I Had Known: On Self-Compassion Part 2

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Apr 9, 20213 min read

What I Wish I Had Known: On Self-Compassion Part 2

Hello again! I hope you enjoyed my post last week about self-compassion and I hope it gave you insight into how it can be helpful rather...

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What I Wish I had Known: On Self-Compassion Part 1

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Mar 26, 20212 min read

What I Wish I had Known: On Self-Compassion Part 1

Self-compassion to me has always been a dirty word. Isn't that about letting yourself off the hook when you make a mistake or fail? I...

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What I Wish I Had Known: It is not a failure to change your mind

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Feb 24, 20212 min read

What I Wish I Had Known: It is not a failure to change your mind

Who expected and planned for 2020 being the year it was with COVID, lockdown, restrictions and our lives and plans basically going out...

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What I Wish I had Known: Self-hate is a choice

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Jan 20, 20212 min read

What I Wish I had Known: Self-hate is a choice

How can it be a choice? Not only do you hate yourself and have crippling low-self esteem but now you are also to blame for your low...

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What I Wish I had Known: Nobody really has it figured out

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Jan 8, 20212 min read

What I Wish I had Known: Nobody really has it figured out

Growing up I watched adults around me always seeming to get everything right and understanding exactly how to act and how to manipulate...

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What I wish I had Known: Seeking people's approval

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Jan 2, 20212 min read

What I wish I had Known: Seeking people's approval

One of the hardest things in life is learning not to seek other people's approval. From young we crave approval, we crave to be liked, to...

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What I wish I had Known: Uncomfortable feelings

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Dec 26, 20203 min read

What I wish I had Known: Uncomfortable feelings

After writing my last post on intrusive thoughts, many people asked about feelings, which got me thinking. Just like thoughts, we spend...

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What I wish I had Known: Intrusive Thoughts

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Dec 19, 20202 min read

What I wish I had Known: Intrusive Thoughts

Have you ever had scary and intrusive thoughts that you wish you could get rid of but nothing you do makes them go away? I know I have....

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On Failure: Part three- Techniques to Change Our Stories

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Oct 27, 20203 min read

On Failure: Part three- Techniques to Change Our Stories

Our belief in our inadequacy and inability to succeed largely stems from the feeling of being ‘unique’ or ‘different to’ other people....

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On Failure Part Two: The Stories We Tell Ourselves

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Oct 14, 20202 min read

On Failure Part Two: The Stories We Tell Ourselves

It is not the actual failure that bothers us so much but the stories we tell ourselves for why we failed. The thing about how we often...

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Oct 6, 20202 min read

On Failure: Part One- How failure feels

'Failure is not the opposite of success, it is part of success' 'Failure is an attitude, not an outcome' 'Success is stumbling from...

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