This is one of the hard truths I have recently been forced to come to terms with. When you grow up your decisions are your own and you don't have the safety and luxury you did as a little kid to blame your parents for what ends up happening in your life.
It is so convenient to lie to yourself and convince yourself that you are doing 'x' thing you don't feel like doing for them. We make up stories of how unfair life is because our parents are forcing us to make a hard decision or do something we really don't want to. And there is comfort in that- if you don't like the outcome you are free from feeling it is your fault.
But the truth is there is an age after which you cannot really blame your parents. It comes at different times for different people but once you get there you realise that your parents can only advise and say what they believe but they can't force anything on you.
And that is really scary because you have grown up believing they are always right and know everything and now you're confronted with choices that are all yours.
That's what growing up is I guess. And it's tough.
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